Maybe it’s a regional thing and maybe it’s an experience thing, but there are plenty of men in today’s society that feel dismissed by the women who should be listening to them.
Let me start off by outlining the definitions of each word.
Interpret or view (something) in a particular way (Dictionary.com).
Understand and share the feelings of another (Dictionary.com).
Feel or express sympathy (Dictionary.com).
So, naturally, I was a bit confused when someone told me, “When you say, ‘I understand,’ I feel dismissed. Because sometimes, you can’t understand.”
So that adds a bit of a wrench in the cogs, doesn’t it? Now there’s a whole new level of communication we’ve added by using the word “but.” And, to be fair, what if I don’t think you’re right?
I’ll clear that up a little. I believe an individual could feel both emotions simultaneously without agreeing. For instance, if a person was set on a “white privilege” tirade, and they shared stories of why they believed in it, I could choose to radically accept the situation and be both sympathetic and put myself in their shoes while still not agreeing that white privilege is a thing.
So, in conclusion, women, choose your words carefully. Treat men the way they want to be treated. After all, they’re only trying to help you understand them.
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